Love type compatibility
All 78 pairings of the 12 types — one honest verdict each
The compatibility grid
Read a row and a column to find a pair; the emoji cell links to that pairing's page. The grid is symmetric — A × B and B × A are the same page.
Which pairings are easiest?
The Green pairings — two people whose attachment, conflict and love-language settings mostly agree.
- Green ⚓ The Anchor × ⚓ The Anchor
- Green 🌱 The Gardener × 🌱 The Gardener
- Green 🌱 The Gardener × 🔥 The Phoenix
- Green 🗼 The Lighthouse × 🗼 The Lighthouse
- Green ⚓ The Anchor × 🎆 The Firework
- Green ⚓ The Anchor × 🌱 The Gardener
- Green ⚓ The Anchor × 🔥 The Phoenix
- Green 🌱 The Gardener × 🗼 The Lighthouse
- Green 🌱 The Gardener × 🧲 The Magnet
- Green 🗼 The Lighthouse × 📖 The Open Book
- Green 🗼 The Lighthouse × 🔥 The Phoenix
- Green ⚓ The Anchor × 🗼 The Lighthouse
- Green ⚓ The Anchor × 🌉 The Drawbridge
- Green ⚓ The Anchor × 🧲 The Magnet
- Green 🎆 The Firework × 🌱 The Gardener
- Green 🏰 The Fortress × 🌱 The Gardener
- Green 🌱 The Gardener × 📖 The Open Book
- Green 🏝️ The Island × 🗼 The Lighthouse
- Green 🗼 The Lighthouse × 🧲 The Magnet
- Green ⚓ The Anchor × 📖 The Open Book
- Green ⚓ The Anchor × ⛈️ The Storm
- Green 🦎 The Chameleon × 🗼 The Lighthouse
- Green 🎆 The Firework × 🗼 The Lighthouse
Which pairings are hardest?
The Harder pairings cluster where anxious meets avoidant, or where two disorganized patterns leave nobody holding steady. Harder is not doomed — every one of these works when both people can name the dynamic out loud.
- Harder 🌉 The Drawbridge × 📖 The Open Book
- Harder 🎆 The Firework × 🏝️ The Island
- Harder 🦎 The Chameleon × ⛈️ The Storm
- Harder 🎆 The Firework × 🏰 The Fortress
- Harder 🏰 The Fortress × 📖 The Open Book
- Harder 🦎 The Chameleon × 🔥 The Phoenix
- Harder 🌉 The Drawbridge × 🎆 The Firework
- Harder 🏝️ The Island × 📖 The Open Book
- Harder 🏝️ The Island × ⛈️ The Storm
- Harder 📖 The Open Book × ⛈️ The Storm
- Harder 🔥 The Phoenix × ⛈️ The Storm
- Harder 🦎 The Chameleon × 🌉 The Drawbridge
- Harder 🦎 The Chameleon × 🎆 The Firework
- Harder 🌉 The Drawbridge × 🧲 The Magnet
- Harder 🏰 The Fortress × ⛈️ The Storm
- Harder 🏝️ The Island × 🧲 The Magnet
- Harder 🧲 The Magnet × ⛈️ The Storm
- Harder ⛈️ The Storm × ⛈️ The Storm
- Harder 🦎 The Chameleon × 🦎 The Chameleon
- Harder 🦎 The Chameleon × 🏰 The Fortress
- Harder 🦎 The Chameleon × 🧲 The Magnet
- Harder 🌉 The Drawbridge × ⛈️ The Storm
- Harder 🎆 The Firework × ⛈️ The Storm
- Harder 🏰 The Fortress × 🧲 The Magnet
- Harder 🦎 The Chameleon × 🏝️ The Island
- Harder 🦎 The Chameleon × 📖 The Open Book
How the verdict is decided
Attachment does most of the work. Two secure bases, or a secure partner with anyone, tends toward Green. Anxious-with-avoidant is the classic pursue-withdraw loop and lands Harder. Two disorganized patterns destabilize each other.
Love language and conflict style adjust it. Sharing a love language removes a layer of translation; a words-versus-touch gap adds one. A pursuing conflict style meeting a withdrawing one compounds the anxious-avoidant strain.
No numbers we haven't earned. We deliberately don't publish a 0–100 score. A categorical verdict is the honest resolution of what four axes can actually tell you. The full method is here.